Friday, May 21, 2010

Mirchiwadi - A Struggle overlooked!!


“Mirchiwadi” a tribal village about 2-3km from Ambernath that I visited with my group as a part of our project work (Making a News Feature).It’s really not easy to get there, but if you get their it not easy to stay there for more 20-30 min as it feels like you are in an awkward situation and you want to get out as soon as possible. Our group consisted of Rasika, Naziya, Mamta, barkha & me with one localite who guided us to the location. Rasika was the one who had the concept of making aware that masses of Mumbai and Ambernath about the current situation of Mirchiwadi. She is the one in the group that wants to help people in need, that’s not all whenever she finds a child beggar on stations she always give money or food or anything that can help. It’s in the family one can say who knew Molly Madam (rasika’s Mom), she is really a kind person with helpful nature and a popular Badlapur’ite.
The basic information that we received was that there was no electricity in Mirchiwadi since independence, but when we reached the place I saw a dish Tv antenna on one of the roof. We all were amazed by it, after an interrogation with localites it was all clear. The new development at the place was street light that was a gift thanks to last elections and so people started illegal development  i.e. theft of electricity. They were soon fined for it by the government officials. As we had girls in our team they were all scared on location as localities like this where not visited by them before. They don’t have gender bias for drinking at mirchiwadi, the tribe were high and scared my team mates specially barkha & mamta you should have seen their faces during the encounter with the old lady and an sense less old man.
The condition of Mirchiwadi is worst than before as now it has electricity, medical facilities and a school but it’s not administered nor utilized. Katkaris who reside here have lived on hand to mouth basis, mainly due to lack of basic infrastructure development. The male members of the family work in brick kilns, the women pick recyclable garbage from dumping grounds in the vicinity. The children on the other hand while away their time playing. Absence of school in the neighborhood and lack of determination on the part of their parents leaves no choice for children but to roam around aimlessly until they adapt to work as their parents did. The wadi has a school of its own, by the efforts of Gyan Sagar Educational and Social Organisation, but only in its early days of setup it had a teacher and was closed in just 6 month of functioning due to lack of a teacher.
Rajesh Jagtap, a journalist who went in search of a story at wadi, but after observing the condition resolved to help the people of Mirchiwadi. He made regular visit to the place and the conditions was improving but soon came the cooperators who indulged in cheap political games and so rajesh stopped his visits.”I tried helping them, but I don’t want to get into cheap politics and I’m tired of such irritating politicians that use this people as vote banks”. Today the condition is worst than before as they are unemployed, basic ammonites like water, electricity and road is not to their reach.
The resident of Mirchiwadi are illiterate and so don’t know much beyond the cooperators. Today what they need is a legal aid with the support of youth who can bring a change. As it shame on our part that Mirchiwadi being a part of Ambernath Municipal Council (AMC) is being neglected. Our media and government still not taking this issue seriously.  We made the feature news on mirchiwadi because we felt we can and we will make a difference!!!!
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Monday, May 17, 2010

Trust is what one need!!!


Every relation today needs trust! I have seen enough, one can say if they put themselves in my shoes. No no its not that I have been into many relation and learned something at the end of each, the fact is that I have not been into any relationship yet. But still observed many around me and so I can say that trust is what one need if they want a successful relationship. The ingredient of power in a romantic relationship is a dangerous thing, and causes many affiliation problems. It is widely experienced by both sexes. A relationship which truly comes from the heart cannot survive the control issues and it tears away at trust. How can one expect his partners to trust one another when he is trying to control the other? It's an effort to control something that one doesn't find lovable at all. The control is the stuff that always ends in “Break UP” because after all we are human beings packed with emotions.
I think that people who suffer from such situation should give sometime to themselves instead of being high on emotion and remembering the past that shattered them. I know it’s not that easy to do so, but one has to focus on the present than the past that went by breaking one’s trust that cannot be structure overnight. Trust has the power to hurt when one is in relation, when an important person violates a trust and harms the other in the process, trust doesn't just shrink back to the prior stage it goes away entirely.
Rumors an important element that breaks the trust, under different conditions, rumor can cause serious trust issues. Many relations have been broken up by false accusations. I know one boy who used trust issues to destroy a relation so he could have the girl it worked. Well, it isn't easy! Trust grows slowly and, if broken, heals more slowly. Relationship trust issues are complex and painful. With patience and love, though, it's usually possible to overcome distrust and grow a healthy, long-term relationship. Just imagine the day you can finally rest in each other's trust, fully able to be yourselves, knowing you're just the person the other one wants to be with.
If you really want to lesson problems in your relationship and build trust with your partner then let go of a need to control and find ways to be supportive of one another. The Day you get trust you’ll get Happiness in life!!!